February 6, 2017
The best compliment is the one that you give.
It seems that life often makes us more worn, and guarded, than we had hoped for or really even expected. We put up barriers after being burned, or hurt, by those near and far to us. We question intentions, worry about outcomes and try to make it through life with as little interaction as possible. I am extremely guilty of putting up a wall, becoming too private and untrusting. That’s a story for another day, but as last Monday’s most was personal, I feel that this topic has laid heavy on my heart for a while and needed to be shared also.
With busy schedules, altering emotions and the stress of everyday life, compliments can be found far and few in between. But they are so much more important than what we realize. Can you think of the last time someone gave you a compliment? Or maybe the last time you gave a compliment to someone else? Do you remember how either made you feel? Sometimes we don’t realize just how wonderful we will feel, when we choose to make someone else feel good. I love the following quote from Ruthie Lindsey, because I feel like we don’t often do this enough,
If you see something beautiful in someone, speak it.
Why is it that we often hesitate to give compliments? Why are we guarded when it comes to telling other people how amazing they are? I know I am personally always judging myself. I’m always trying to come up with every negative response that someone might have, to my positive comment. You can see how that can easily talk you out of saying something to someone else. I pray that with time I can stop becoming my own enemy. I can stop standing in the way of going out of my way to make someone else days, because I am afraid of what they might think or say. 95% of the time that other person has good intentions too, so don’t wast time.
A polite expression of praise or admiration. Something that is often not shared enough, but when it is shared, it is much more powerful than we can imagine. That feeling you get when you make someone smile, or make them laugh, is irreplaceable. This verse from Proverbs is officially on my list to have printed or made into art for my home, it so real and raw and truthful in every way. It describes perfectly, how kind words make us feel.
Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body
The best compliment, is the one that you give to someone else .
In the past, and still today, I find that when I am upset or just having a bad day, the best way to turn it around is to give someone else a compliment. That’s right, someone else, not myself. Now you might be thinking, why give someone else a compliment, when I’m the one that feels like crap?! Let me let you in on a little secret. Giving away that compliment, will often make that persons day. Think about how our feel when someone else gives you a compliment? Awesome, right? So trying giving one. I promise you, the feeling is contagious and you will be walking around giving other people compliments all the time!
When I was younger, like basically a year ago, if I saw someone wearing something I liked I was terrified to ask them wear they got it from. At the time, I didn’t realize how great of a compliment that was, until someone asked me and I got all the feels! It feels great when someone thinks you have style and asks wear your scarf came from. So I finally took the plunge and asked someone one day. don’t get me wrong, I was completely terrified, but I quickly learned that she took it as a compliment and felt an immediate sense of relief. The point isn’t to go around asking everyone wear the shoes came from, unless you truly like them, but rather don’t be afraid to give someone you don’t know a compliment. You just might make their day!
I truly believe that the words that come out of our mouth, the visions that we have in our mind and the prayers we pray are what we get out of each day. When we tell ourselves we can’t do something, or constantly think of every reason we might not be able to accomplish something, we automatically disable ourselves from that ability. We are what we believe we are and we will do what we speak, so why not make those things positive? Jay and I decide years ago, and even though we do slip up, that we would always say “When I/we do …” instead of saying “If I/we do…” We don’t like to put the word if into the picture, we don’t like to give it that authority. I could go on, and on, on this topic, but what I want to share with you is that whatever words are coming out of your mouth is what you will be and receive. Why not make the words that come out of your mouth kind words? Why not direct positivity towards others? Why not bless them? No one is perfect, I am still hear scratching my head thinkings “Do I have the authority to say this, when I don’t always practice it?” The truth is, probably not. But, I think that what we put into words, we will see ourselves follow. So I want to give more compliments, say more kind words to people that I might not even know! I want to rid my mind of those negative thoughts, so why not share that with you? We can do this together, rather than fight negative thoughts alone.
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