March 12, 2018
This spring will mark two years post college graduation for me and I just had to write that to believe it. WOW. Where has the time gone? What am I doing with my life? Those are just a couple of the many questions that pop into my head every day. While many might encourage quitting this passion project, quitting just isn’t for me. Instead, these days are made of learning to embrace slow growth.
January brought my 24th Birthday, May will bring two years I have been free of college, October will mark two years of marriage and November signifies two years of being in our house, yet I still feel like a crazy person Every. Single. Day. You know what? I’m learning to accept that!
Not everything is perfect, sometimes things take a while to click and most of the time we have to fall down in order to get back up. While I’m no expert on life, I wanted to share a few things with you that I would tell my teenage self. That feisty, sassy, insecure girl. Oh, how I wish I could have just lent her a helping hand at the time. But now, I just work on myself daily and look forward to continuing to grow and learn.
I am far from perfect. Personally, I think we all are…
Six Things I Would Tell My Teenage Self
Stop Caring About What Other People Think
This is number one and the big bullseye for me. For too long, I have been terrified of making a fool of myself in front of other people. I always thought people were talking about me behind my back, making fun of me or whatever it might be. I was afraid if I failed I would be laughed at or be the laughing stock of the conversation at some party or whatever. So I let that fear stop me from doing what I wanted to do. What I love doing. Maybe people did talk about me, make fun of me or whatever. So what!
I have never been happier or proud of myself then when I’m doing what makes me happy. Creating video content, writing blog posts and sharing my passions with you.
Some people might think differently of me, but I am so happy and that’s truthfully all that matters. I personally feel that deep, rich happiness comes when you stop letting the fears of what other people may think of you stop from doing what you love or something you want to try. Go for it! You can do it!
Work On Yourself First
During my teenage years and my early twenties (I’m still technically in my early twenties) I spent a lot of time blaming other people and circumstances for my problems. I would, and sometimes still do, come up with a million and one reasons why something didn’t get done other than the fact that I didn’t do it. The thing is, you can’t sit around waiting for the stars to align perfectly and for success to fall at your feet. You can’t blame other people for your problems.
Instead, you must work on yourself first and put in the work for yourself. You can’t do it for anyone else or you will never be happy. I promise, if you take the time to invest in yourself you will see greater rewards than you could imagine. Work on yourself and you won’t be disappointed. It doesn’t come naturally. It takes time and dedication.
Do one thing and I promise you will see results. Just start! Right now, take action, don’t wait. Create the life you want to live, don’t wait for it.
Open Your Bible and Keep On Prayin’ Baby!
You don’t have to know all of the answers. You don’t have to know where to start. It doesn’t have to be morning or night. Just open your bible and start reading. Don’t stop there. Grab a journal, pray over your studies, Google things you don’t understand and ask your friends and family to walk beside you. You will find more help in strangers than what your little heart could understand. Keep praying. God is always with you and he will never forsake you.
I wish I could have given myself a pep talk prior to certain life experiences. I wish I could have told myself that I am worthy and that others actions and words do not have to change me, harden me, or hurt me if I don’t allow them. Yes, they can wound me, they might make me question things, but at the end of the day, they only have the power that I give them. So, teenage Morgan, don’t give ANYONE or ANYTHING power that is not worthy of it. Be strong, pray hard, lean on that tall, skinny handsome boyfriend and get through it.
P.S. In a few short years that boy will be your husband and will still be by your side, loving you and supporting you every step of the way. I love you Jay!
It’s Ok To Like Different Things: That doesn’t make you weird it actually makes you cool!
Mic Drop! Am I right?
Why is different always perceived as weird or something we should fear? That is not ok! Often times we are fearful of things and people that are different than us. But, when we open our minds and bodies to new and different experiences, life becomes so much sweeter. We learn more and become wiser and more patient.
For the longest time, I was more fearful of people knowing about my blog and Youtube channel than anything! I started them in High School and never told anyone. It even took me a while to tell my parents and even then I warned them not to tell anyone. When I found out my mom told all of my aunts I knew it was over. I was so embarrassed! But, looking back now I understand why I was fearful, but would definitely do things differently! Over the years, I have received so much love and support through this platform from family and friends. I can never thank you enough for taking the time to visit and read this website.
Don’t be afraid to pursue your passions, even if they are a bit different. You might be faced with obstacles and judgment from others, but in the end, you will come out on top! I promise.
You Will Find Great Joy in Reading About Personal Development
Sometimes you just don’t know how beneficial educating yourself can be. Especially after spending years, and years, in school, I know that you are tired of reading and have no interest in doing so! But, one day you will pick up a book on personal development and creating a lifestyle that you love. That book will change you and your mindset. Not immediately, but gradually over time, you will see a good transformation. You will grow and learn. You will read and share your new knowledge and slowly, little by little, you will begin to appreciate your life more and realize your role in the bigger picture.
Over time, you will slowly learn gratitude and forgiveness. You will learn self-care and love and the importance of letting go and being patient. These will all be qualities that you become eager to learn more about. Even though you will learn more, and more, you will still find them challenging and the trials never ending.
This is, my dear, is how we grow.
You are Perfect Just the Way You Are
With all of this said, I need to end on just one thing. You are perfect just the way you are.
You don’t have to change yourself, hide who you are or let others dictate or judge the way you live. You don’t have to be skinny or acne free, your future husband will love you just the way you are. Lastly, you don’t have to be afraid to be friends with everyone! Maybe you don’t fit in with one particular crowd, that’s just fine. You just do you and people will love you for your honesty and vulnerability. For your kindness, empathy, and humility. When you allow yourself the freedom to be yourself, even your greatest enemies will find inspiration in you.
Be patient. Be kind. Give to other. Be humble. And always accept God’s grace. You are worthy, sweet girl!
Photography by Tiffany Sigmon
Six Things I Would Tell My Teenage Self