October 30, 2017
Last year I thought of the day I would sit down and write a blog post on our first year of marriage, not knowing how quickly this day would come. Time is something I can’t seem to get a handle on, but I can say that our first year of marriage, although busy, has been better than I could have ever dreamed of.
When sitting down to write this post, I realized that I never properly shared a blog post on our wedding. You probably saw on my social media accounts, that our wedding was featured on Style Me Pretty. What a dream that was! I basically did all of my wedding planning on Style Me Pretty with the help of our amazing wedding planner Amanda Spencer. I seriously couldn’t have survived without her! If you would like for me to share an entire post, devoted to our wedding, I would love to do that. Just let me know!
Here we are one year later and I still can’t believe that I’m married to my best friend. Jay and I started dating in 2008, so although we have been married for a year, we have been together for nine. There was something different about Jay. Something unique, something kind and something that became a part of me over the years. When I look at Jay I see my best friend, someone I confide in and someone I couldn’t live a day without.
After nine years together, we still have our daily routines and still text each other all day long. We still kiss each other good morning and goodnight. But, that’s not to say that the first year of our marriage wasn’t an adjustment. In a good way, though. Learning to live with someone else can be challenging, but I truly think that this year Jay and I grew stronger, than what I thought was possible in our first year of marriage.
I wrote a post on 6 Months of Marriage and I have to say that everything I mentioned there, is still more than applicable. Putting the Lord first in our marriage has kept us unified and if I had to give anyone wedding planning advice, it would be- find a good pastor and go through marriage counseling. Although Jay and I had discussed many of the topics in marriage counseling-prior to our engagement. The things we worked through, talked about and dove deeper into, were all vital parts of everyday life in our marriage.
Jay is by far the most encouraging, supportive and loving husband. Looking back, I don’t think I could have prayed for a man this amazing. He truly beats my wildest dreams on an everyday basis. But, everyone that knows him personally, knows just how amazing he truly is and what an impact he has on others.
Personally, I couldn’t be more grateful for this first year of marriage and everything that we have endured and learned together. I have been racking my brain, a bit, trying to decide how I want to format this post. Instead of really breaking everything down, analyzing and boring you to death, I thought I would share a list of some of this year’s accomplishments, struggles, leaps of faith and everything we have gone through together, that I am grateful for. So, here goes:
One Year Of Marriage: What I’m Thankful For
- Building a married life together.
- Working in and on our home. Which can be costly and a bit overwhelming, but is the most rewarding project for us.
- Learning to trust timing and be patient while we are waiting. Furniture, landscapes, fences and so many more home projects, don’t happen overnight.
- Career changes, selling businesses, trying new things and being patient with growth.
- Parenting our sweet and troublesome pup (who isn’t really a puppy anymore).
- Making new, and scary, purchases. Two new cars in two weeks time.
- Not going into credit card debt. Only making purchases-other than our mortgage and vehicles-that we can pay for in cash.
- Trusting each other and our abilities.
- Learning our strengths and weaknesses. And being patient, and supportive, in those weak and vulnerable times.
- Praying for each other and reminding each other to pray.
- Having the best family anyone could dream of.
- Grieving loss, but trusting God’s timing and reason.
- We have taken on so many responsibilities this year. Most importantly taking on each other’s schedules and needs. Making the other persons needs priority all while maintaining our individual day to day lives.
This year has been so wonderful, but it hasn’t come without a few learning experiences and loss. I believe that every obstacle we face has a purpose and we must trust God’s presence and his love for us. Each and every morning, day and night I am thankful for my amazing husband.
I hope that you enjoy this post and I would love to know more about you and your relationships. Do you have any recommendations for newlyweds? What do you think is the most important factor in a marriage? Tell me more! Thank you so much for stopping by!
Photography by Ashley Seawell
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