March 6, 2018
The beautiful thing about life is that everything is ever changing. The bad times in life, the hurt feelings, the failures, the bad weather and all the other things that don’t bring us joy, are only temporary. On the contrary, not everything that is good will last forever. The endless Summer sunshine must eventually give way to Fall. Good days end and the highest highs, promotions and big wins eventually come back down. Finding balance during these different peaks and pits can be difficult.
I’m not saying that everyday can’t be great because in order to keep going we have to find joy in the simplicity of everyday life. We have to wake up each day with good intentions and a heart that welcomes grace. However, as each day passes and the struggles and accomplishments of life seem to repeat themselves, I have learned something. It’s all about finding balance.
Now, I’m not talking about the whole balancing everything with a smile kind of thing. I’m talking about the need for seasons life. The need for rest and growth. The necessary ups and downs and every emotion that comes with each step along the way. We must fall down in order to stand back up. Am I right? Just like nature needs seasons, so do we. But finding balance isn’t always easy.
Finding Balance and Embracing Change
It’s important that I mention to you just how negative of a person I am. *That is something I’m currently working on* I taught myself to expect the worse so that if anything better than that happens, I technically have a win. Make sense? The problem with this mindset is that I automatically, without giving it any effort, find the negative in everything. I come up with every worse case scenario and never stop to think, “How can I just get the results I want?” Most of the time, I talk myself out of taking the risks that will help me grow because the risk just seems too high or there are too many scenarios where I would fail. So why try?
Because that’s how we learn. So how is it that we can truly learn how to embrace the many different seasons in life? Here is what I have learned thus far.
Sometimes you have to have endure the bad, to appreciate the good
Like I just said, the bad, uncomfortable and uneasy times are what generate growth, development and in the end, the good. Sometimes it takes seeing what a bad day is like to really appreciate the good days that you sometimes let slip by without celebrating or thanking God for. Sometimes at the end of a bad day, I just laugh at myself and think, “So all the other days are actually amazing compared to this!” Take the bad with the good and don’t be afraid when you are in the trenches. This is where the magic happens! This is where we learn and truly make changes in our life.
Listen to your body
This is something that I have fought for so long, but I’m slowly learning to embrace. The body and mind are such tricky and fragile things. Especially as a female. I think it’s so important to listen to your body. If you are feeling tired or sick, you have to take the time to rest. Rest is essential in having a clear mind and motivation to tackle your daily tasks. I truthfully think self-care has been underestimated for so long. When I am feeling exhausted, even if its the middle of the day, I will make the time to soak in a hot bath or maybe even take a quick nap if time permits for either. I always come out feeling revived. My mind is clear and my body is reenergized.
I’m not quite positive that this is “healthy” but when working from home, I really love to spend my lunchtime on the sofa, catching up on my favorite shows, while I eat. Like I said, this probably isn’t healthy, but it makes me happy! It’s all about balance right?
Someone always has it worse than you do.
Whenever I was amidst a meltdown as a child, my mom always seemed to remind me just how blessed I was. Even when we think the struggle is “so real” that we can’t continue, there is always someone out there who is in a much worse situation. Someone who is enduring more mental, emotional or physical pain than we are.
Now, I don’t want you to take this as your problem, or how you feel, is not important. Because it very much is. However, everything is “figureoutable” (I love this term from Marie Forleo). We can sometimes, if you are like me, have a tendency to feel sorry for ourselves instead of figuring out a solution.
Be grateful for your blessings and work through the hardships.
Never be ashamed to ask for help when you need it.
Look past the superficial expectations of society and take a small bit of action in the direction that works best for you.
Society often places this unrealistic expectation and stress on us to make our life look like a someone else’s social media photo or video. It portrays that in order to get ahead in life and be a successful girl boss we might need to have a beautiful office filled with acrylic organization, a wall designed with gallery art, air purifying plants and so much more. Or that we need to have a diet that consists of perfectly tossed salads, green smoothies, and acai bowls.
The truth of the matter is we don’t have to have any of that to make things happen. I do think it’s important to have a workspace off to the corner of your home that you can shut the door on at night, if possible. Make it something that you enjoy and a space that is beautiful to you, This is not essential to being successful, merely just helpful. It’s important to feed your body good food and exercise regularly, but you don’t have to look or eat like a runway model to be successful. Start by looking past all of those “perfect scenarios” and take small steps to get started on living and creating the life of your dreams.
Don’t forget to celebrate the wins. Even the little ones.
This is something I have been working on hard this year. Setting smaller attainable goals and celebrating when I reach them. Not goals so small that I don’t have to work for them, but simply setting daily goals or weekly goals in addition to those that might take longer. Small wins get us moving and give us the motivation to tackle bigger things.
In order to celebrate all the wins, you have to be present and accepting of them. You also have to set intentional goals. Celebrating the good things in life is often overlooked. With all of the hustle and bustle, we are so quickly onto the next thing that we never stop to appreciate our hard work. But if we continue to just keep skipping over our success we will never feel accomplished or like we are making any progress.
We must stop to recognize the wins.
Do what you can when you can
Throughout the many seasons of life comes seasons of productivity, lack of motivation, sadness, joy, hard work and so much more. One thing that I have learned about my creativity when it comes to work, our home or even the weekly dinner menu in the Parlett household it’s that everything comes in seasons. I have to do what I can when I can.
In my opinion, one of the most difficult things about blogging is that sometimes the words pour onto the paper, like water, or in this case the keyboard of my laptop. Other days, I can hardly write the check for my car payment without feeling drained. Sometimes things will come easily to us and sometimes even when we try really hard, and I mean really, really hard, we just don’t see the results that we are working for. It’s all about accepting God’s grace and doing what we can when we can.
Maybe I will write five blog posts in one day and not write again for another three days or even a week. Who knows?
It’s all about balance and being ok with producing when you can and allowing yourself space when you can’t.
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven
What can I do right now to make my current life season intentional?
It only takes a brief second to look at your life, how blessed you are and think what is one small thing I can do right now to make my current season in life intentional? I’m a firm believer that good things come from the mess and the hurt that we endure. This is when we learn. So maybe right now something in your life is messy, imperfect and bothersome. Dig a little deeper and see what you find!
Photography by Tiffany Sigmon
Finding Balance and Learning to Embrace the Many Different Seasons in Life