May 14, 2018
Over the past week, or so, I have taken a little bit of a blogging break. I have taken time to step back from social media and the pressure surrounding being a “blogger” today. When I began this journey several years ago, the blogging space was quite different. I had high hopes for this little platform of mine but never really knew exactly what I wanted out of it and several years later I was in desperate need of a blogging break.
The past few years I have poured my heart, soul, dignity, and feelings into this blog. There have been good days, bad days and many days spent sobbing over my laptop or to my husband. As time passed, I began to put more, and more, pressure on myself to fit into something that I’m not. I’m not saying that the content I have shared is a lie or isn’t relevant, because that is simply not true. However, I have realized that not every story, or blog, is the same and the continuous pressure I have placed on myself is both unhealthy and unnecessary.
With all of that said, I have missed talking with you during this blogging break. The first couple of days were really nice. To be completely honest, I felt so relieved that I felt 100% at ease with letting go of this blog altogether. However, around day three and four, I realized that I do love blogging. I love connecting with you and sharing my favorite things. I love cooking and being a wife and talking about how it’s impossible to balance it all, especially if we aren’t truly trying (that would be me).
Most importantly, I have realized how much time I have wasted trying to fit some mold or check off a to-do list just for the sake of checking it off. I’m not saying that I won’t still write something on my to-do list after I have already done, it just so I can check it off. I will always do that! But, I am very blessed and should have little stress. I shouldn’t feel like I have to fill my day up with unnecessary tasks and anxiety just to be like everyone else.
I’m a stay at home wife, blogger, and work a very small part-time job for our family business. If that’s not ok with others, then I don’t need them in my life.
Now that I have gotten all of that off of my chest, I wanted to share with you 5 things I learned from my blogging break and taking a step back.
A Blogging Break
Quality Over Quantity Always
One of the main themes behind Timeless Taste is the concept of Quality Over Quantity. I like to believe that I have upheld quality over the years but the quantity part is what I have struggled with. I know that consistency is so important when it comes to blogging and most bloggers that work full-time post 5 days a week. However, that schedule just isn’t for me.
Yes, I want to notify you of great sales and buys, however, my intention is not to sell you on a sale so I can make a commission and then have you stuck with a pair of pants that won’t be “in style” next season. When you come to Timeless Taste, I want you to find content that is truly timeless. Content that is evergreen and valuable. That has an emotional connection and serves you.
Things might change over time, however, right now I don’t feel like I need to be blogging 3 days a week. Between balancing my Youtube channel, blogging, being a wife and other business tasks, I think 2 days is sufficient for creating content. I will be doing my best to post on Mondays and Fridays, or maybe Tuesdays and Thursdays, for a while, while I work on other projects that I have my heart set on. If you have a day preference, please let me know in a comment below!
Stop Trying to be a Blogger
The older I get the more I dislike titles. Funny enough, I have been trying to create one for myself and it has made me more miserable than ever.
Being a blogger, or influencer is currently all the rage. when I started this journey, in High School, it wasn’t quite as common. Now, everyone AND their mother is an “influencer” and making a living off of it.
I have never felt so unworthy in my life, then how I have allowed this endeavor to make me feel. I’m not playing the blame game, this has been my choice and mine alone. With that said, doing this and sharing recipes, outfits, and life, makes me so happy. However, putting a title and the pressure to make this a job has done just that. Made it a job. AKA a task that I no longer look forward to doing.
To be fair, that’s a little harsh, but I hope you get the point. The pressure I have put on myself has taken the fun out of this for me. Moving forward, I hope to create content that is valuable but that also makes me happy and I don’t feel the need to be someone else in the process.
Basing My Personal Self Worth Off Of The Success of My Business Is a Big No-No
I have to say, that all of the lessons I have been learning, really amount to this one. This is the big mammy jammy! If you know what I mean? Putting pressure on myself to be a blogger, and do other things the way bloggers do, and publish content like them, and make money, like them and live life like them, is extremely unhealthy. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that.
However, I truly believe that all of these smaller factors were building up to this: I have been basing my personal self-worth off of the success of this blog.
You can probably guess, that I have a serious issue with seeing my self-worth, and success. The past year, I have been too busy trying to you use someone else’s grading scale to measure my success. The truth is, everyone fails at some point. This blog might fail, I just don’t know. But, this blog or my business is not who I am. It’s just a small part of who I am.
In order to have a productive and fulfilling life, not too mention a happy one, I have to stop connecting my personal self-worth on the success of my blog. These two must be separate and in order to do that I have to actively choose to separate them.
It’s Ok To Have a Dynamic Business and Platform
In the blogging/influencer education world, they preach two big things: consistency and niche. We already touched on consistency earlier in this post, but now I want to talk a little bit about the niche aspect. I totally get and respect the whole “If you are speaking to everyone, you’re really speaking to no one” thing. You can’t be a food and a fashion blogger. Trust me, I get it.
However, I truly believe that Timeless Taste is much more of a dynamic lifestyle brand. Our niche is creating content that is simple and timeless, and applicable to all aspects of your life. I believe that my niche isn’t a topic, it’s a lifestyle.
In that lifestyle, less is more, which should apply to this blog as well. With that in mind, I want to create less content that is more valuable. Maybe that means sharing a recipe booklet that you can download and print, or how to videos, or catalogs. At this point, I’m not 100% what will work best for my brand, but I do know that blogging isn’t just it and I will work hard to bring you content on the best platform that will do it justice.
There is No Right or Wrong Answer
This is something that Jay has been telling me for years and it just all just clicked into place the other day. Ahemm, thank you, Jay and Tiffany!
My dear friend Tiffany brought this to my attention again the other day. You probably know her as the gal behind the camera (most of the time), however, she is a great friend to me and a business bestie, you could say. After an hour of business conversation last week, she told that it there is no wrong with my blog. It’s my platform, I can do with it as I wish.
At the end of the day, Timeless Taste is my creation. It’s mine to do with it as I wish. Obviously, I want it to branch into a successful business, but it’s not life or death. Thankfully.
I have the freedom to color outside of the lines and to make this brand whatever I want it to be. Don’t get me wrong, you have to color inside the lines to be successful, but that doesn’t mean I can’t do things on my own terms and in my own way.
This blogging break has been such an eye-opening experience. It let me realize that I do want to continue with this brand but that I have to have boundaries and limited my internet exposure. I can’t continue on the path that I was on, as it was entirely too destructive. No one is putting pressure on me so I need to remove that feeling of trying to be busy. The arbitrary goals and milestones have to stop. My self-worth does not come from page views, Instagram followers, income or anything else. It comes from me and the life I live daily.
Jay, thank you for your continued patience and understanding with me. Thank you for working so hard for our family and for serving others daily. You are truly amazing and a blessing to us all.
Photography by Tiffany Sigmon
A Blogging Break | 5 Things I Learned From Taking a Step Back