May 14, 2018

Lifestyle

Over the past week, or so, I have taken a little bit of a blogging break. I have taken time to step back from social media and the pressure surrounding being a “blogger” today. When I began this journey several years ago, the blogging space was quite different. I had high hopes for this little platform of mine but never really knew exactly what I wanted out of it and several years later I was in desperate need of a blogging break.

The past few years I have poured my heart, soul, dignity, and feelings into this blog. There have been good days, bad days and many days spent sobbing over my laptop or to my husband. As time passed, I began to put more, and more, pressure on myself to fit into something that I’m not. I’m not saying that the content I have shared is a lie or isn’t relevant, because that is simply not true. However, I have realized that not every story, or blog, is the same and the continuous pressure I have placed on myself is both unhealthy and unnecessary.

With all of that said, I have missed talking with you during this blogging break. The first couple of days were really nice. To be completely honest, I felt so relieved that I felt 100% at ease with letting go of this blog altogether. However, around day three and four, I realized that I do love blogging. I love connecting with you and sharing my favorite things. I love cooking and being a wife and talking about how it’s impossible to balance it all, especially if we aren’t truly trying (that would be me).

Most importantly, I have realized how much time I have wasted trying to fit some mold or check off a to-do list just for the sake of checking it off. I’m not saying that I won’t still write something on my to-do list after I have already done, it just so I can check it off. I will always do that! But, I am very blessed and should have little stress. I shouldn’t feel like I have to fill my day up with unnecessary tasks and anxiety just to be like everyone else.

I’m a stay at home wife, blogger, and work a very small part-time job for our family business. If that’s not ok with others, then I don’t need them in my life. 

Now that I have gotten all of that off of my chest, I wanted to share with you 5 things I learned from my blogging break and taking a step back.

A Blogging Break | 5 Things I Learned From Taking a Step Back

A Blogging Break

Quality Over Quantity Always

One of the main themes behind Timeless Taste is the concept of Quality Over Quantity. I like to believe that I have upheld quality over the years but the quantity part is what I have struggled with. I know that consistency is so important when it comes to blogging and most bloggers that work full-time post 5 days a week. However, that schedule just isn’t for me.

Yes, I want to notify you of great sales and buys, however, my intention is not to sell you on a sale so I can make a commission and then have you stuck with a pair of pants that won’t be “in style” next season. When you come to Timeless Taste, I want you to find content that is truly timeless. Content that is evergreen and valuable. That has an emotional connection and serves you.

Things might change over time, however, right now I don’t feel like I need to be blogging 3 days a week. Between balancing my Youtube channel, blogging, being a wife and other business tasks, I think 2 days is sufficient for creating content. I will be doing my best to post on Mondays and Fridays, or maybe Tuesdays and Thursdays, for a while, while I work on other projects that I have my heart set on. If you have a day preference, please let me know in a comment below!

Stop Trying to be a Blogger

The older I get the more I dislike titles. Funny enough, I have been trying to create one for myself and it has made me more miserable than ever.

Being a blogger, or influencer is currently all the rage. when I started this journey, in High School, it wasn’t quite as common. Now, everyone AND their mother is an “influencer” and making a living off of it. 

I have never felt so unworthy in my life, then how I have allowed this endeavor to make me feel. I’m not playing the blame game, this has been my choice and mine alone. With that said, doing this and sharing recipes, outfits, and life, makes me so happy. However, putting a title and the pressure to make this a job has done just that. Made it a job. AKA a task that I no longer look forward to doing. 

To be fair, that’s a little harsh, but I hope you get the point. The pressure I have put on myself has taken the fun out of this for me. Moving forward, I hope to create content that is valuable but that also makes me happy and I don’t feel the need to be someone else in the process.

Basing My Personal Self Worth Off Of The Success of My Business Is a Big No-No

I have to say, that all of the lessons I have been learning, really amount to this one. This is the big mammy jammy! If you know what I mean? Putting pressure on myself to be a blogger, and do other things the way bloggers do, and publish content like them, and make money, like them and live life like them, is extremely unhealthy. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that.

However, I truly believe that all of these smaller factors were building up to this: I have been basing my personal self-worth off of the success of this blog. 

You can probably guess, that I have a serious issue with seeing my self-worth, and success. The past year, I have been too busy trying to you use someone else’s grading scale to measure my success. The truth is, everyone fails at some point. This blog might fail, I just don’t know. But, this blog or my business is not who I am. It’s just a small part of who I am.

In order to have a productive and fulfilling life, not too mention a happy one, I have to stop connecting my personal self-worth on the success of my blog. These two must be separate and in order to do that I have to actively choose to separate them. 

It’s Ok To Have a Dynamic Business and Platform

In the blogging/influencer education world, they preach two big things: consistency and niche. We already touched on consistency earlier in this post, but now I want to talk a little bit about the niche aspect. I totally get and respect the whole “If you are speaking to everyone, you’re really speaking to no one” thing. You can’t be a food and a fashion blogger. Trust me, I get it. 

However, I truly believe that Timeless Taste is much more of a dynamic lifestyle brand. Our niche is creating content that is simple and timeless, and applicable to all aspects of your life. I believe that my niche isn’t a topic, it’s a lifestyle.

In that lifestyle, less is more, which should apply to this blog as well. With that in mind, I want to create less content that is more valuable. Maybe that means sharing a recipe booklet that you can download and print, or how to videos, or catalogs. At this point, I’m not 100% what will work best for my brand, but I do know that blogging isn’t just it and I will work hard to bring you content on the best platform that will do it justice.

There is No Right or Wrong Answer

This is something that Jay has been telling me for years and it just all just clicked into place the other day. Ahemm, thank you, Jay and Tiffany! 

My dear friend Tiffany brought this to my attention again the other day. You probably know her as the gal behind the camera (most of the time), however, she is a great friend to me and a business bestie, you could say. After an hour of business conversation last week, she told that it there is no wrong with my blog. It’s my platform, I can do with it as I wish. 

At the end of the day, Timeless Taste is my creation. It’s mine to do with it as I wish. Obviously, I want it to branch into a successful business, but it’s not life or death. Thankfully. 

I have the freedom to color outside of the lines and to make this brand whatever I want it to be. Don’t get me wrong, you have to color inside the lines to be successful, but that doesn’t mean I can’t do things on my own terms and in my own way. 


This blogging break has been such an eye-opening experience. It let me realize that I do want to continue with this brand but that I have to have boundaries and limited my internet exposure. I can’t continue on the path that I was on, as it was entirely too destructive. No one is putting pressure on me so I need to remove that feeling of trying to be busy. The arbitrary goals and milestones have to stop. My self-worth does not come from page views, Instagram followers, income or anything else. It comes from me and the life I live daily.

Jay, thank you for your continued patience and understanding with me. Thank you for working so hard for our family and for serving others daily. You are truly amazing and a blessing to us all.

Photography by Tiffany Sigmon

A Blogging Break | 5 Things I Learned From Taking a Step Back

Comments

  1. Peden

    May 14th, 2018 at 4:43 pm

    I just want to take a moment and let you know that I love following you and seeing what you pull together, Morgan. I completely understand and 100000x support all that you have decided in this post, but know that you are shining light into the lives of other people. I truly wish you all the best and hope the joy and peace it seems you’ve discovered stays with you. I’m excited to see where Timeless Taste goes from here!

  2. Morgan Reed

    May 15th, 2018 at 7:44 am

    Thank you so much for your continued support, Peden! This comment means so much to me and I’m happy to have your encouragement. I’m so happy that I have taken a step back and have a much clearer view of what I want from this brand moving forward!

    I hope you are doing well and have a great summer!

  3. Heather

    May 14th, 2018 at 5:26 pm

    I’m so glad that stepping back for a few days was just what you needed! I’ve struggled with the same niche blogging issue and came to a similar conclusion that you did. Not all blogs are meant to be totally focused on one subject. Lifestyle can be, and should be, a niche as long as it’s true to your brand!

    And, yes, it should always be about creating amazing content for your readers rather than just getting another “buy this so I get a commission” post up!

  4. Morgan Reed

    May 15th, 2018 at 7:47 am

    Thank you, Heather! I completely agree with the niche concept. I have been doing my best to educate myself and learn new business and blogging things, to help me grow. However, I have found that some advice just isn’t for me and I will never be able to write about just one “blog category” per say. My brand shares a lifestyle and I feel like I’m finally understanding that. I love following your blog and your support means so much to me. Thank you for your sweet words and encouragement!

  5. Erin

    May 14th, 2018 at 7:29 pm

    Sometimes taking a step back is absolutely necessary to bring things back into perspective.

  6. Morgan Reed

    May 15th, 2018 at 7:48 am

    Thank you so much, Erin! Ahhh, it was so necessary and long overdue! Thank you for your support 💕

  7. Bonnie

    May 14th, 2018 at 7:32 pm

    I love reading your blog posts because they are so genuine, and never come off as being mere advertisements. I check in with my favourite bloggers when I have spare moments- kind of like picking up a magazine when there is time. And I am always happy to wait for content that is really lovely and from the heart. I would much rather wait for something good than be bombarded with junk. I think we all sometimes have an impulse to look for our worth in our success, but I love how you want to define your worth and success on your own terms. Kudos to you. I hope you continue your blog. You have a fresh take on classic, which I appreciate, and I love that there is diversity in what you focus on. I never write comments on posts- and that was a long one! – but just wanted to say thanks for being real. Real success takes time but you’re building something timeless! This random person from Canada enjoys what you create! 🙂

  8. Morgan Reed

    May 17th, 2018 at 9:19 am

    Hi Bonnie!

    Thank you so much! I just can’t tell you how much your kind words mean to me. I feel the same way about the bloggers that I follow. Sometimes, it’s just too much content and then I miss things that I actually want to see! Thank you for taking the time to leave me such a heartfelt comment. I’m seeing just how necessary this break was and what an amazing community of women I have surrounding me, with similar goals and intentions. I will also do my best to show up in the best way that I know how. I’m excited to move forward with new content and find balance amidst the mess!

    I hope you are having a great week! Thank you again!
    -Morgan

  9. Valerie Z. Koselke

    May 14th, 2018 at 10:19 pm

    Thank you for sharing this heartfelt post. I can relate to and agree with pretty much everything. I am just now starting my journey into blogging, and I truly am doing it for me, but I already feel the pressure. Regardless, I do love your blog and really love that you aren’t doing what everyone else does. I get tons of inspo here! Wishing you the best in your other ventures and looking forward to your journey 🙂

  10. Morgan Reed

    May 17th, 2018 at 9:21 am

    Hi Valerie!

    Thank you so much for taking the time to leave such a sweet comment! Blogging can be so challenging. Not necessarily to blogging part, but just learning to tune out all of the advice and constantly pushing to sell more or be seen more. It is so wonderful to hear that you are able to find inspiration in my work. Thank you for sharing that!

    I’m excited for the future and for trying new things! Thank you, again!
    -Morgan

  11. Almond

    May 15th, 2018 at 2:27 am

    Hold on to your truth and your authentic self. The majority of social media is fake. If you need to take time to stay true to who you are and not diminish your true values then, by all means take a break. Your post is my current life, my cinderella glass slipper broke trying to keep up with social media. Your post hit home for me. I took a 2,5 month break after the new youtube quota booted me, at the peak of my videos. (currently waiting for monetization approval). Long Story.
    But now I have a different perspective and have refueled. “Timeless” is the perfect name for your brand, because it is about “quality and not quantity”. Hang in there! Thank you for posting.🌷

  12. Morgan Reed

    May 17th, 2018 at 9:30 am

    Thank you so much, Almond! That is so true! Social media can be so toxic and influential to our lives in negative ways. I’m so glad that you could relate to this post. I completely understand where you are coming from! Sometimes what feels like the bottom is truly just a turning point. I know that you will come out on top with monetization approval! Your videos are absolutely beautiful, you are so talented! Thank you for your inspiration and encouragement! I hope you have a great day!
    -Morgan

  13. Monica

    May 15th, 2018 at 9:13 pm

    Sometimes we all need to take a deep breath, say a little prayer and take a leap of faith.

    One day I stumbled upon a lovely young woman on YouTube. Her vlogs were so sincere and real. I was so impressed that I showed them to my daughter. I hoped that my daughter would look to her as a role model of sorts. This young woman was happy with who she was – maybe a little insecure at times but always seemed to have respect for herself and others. This is something very rare and special especially in today’s world.

    You may not always know it but you are touching people’s lives. You’re someone that a 15 year old girl thinks is really cool. (And that’s not an easy thing to do!). So thank uou for always staying true to who you are!

  14. Morgan Reed

    May 18th, 2018 at 10:20 am

    Oh, Monica!!! Thank you so much for your support and love! It is truly an honor to have so many ladies, of all ages, support me and befriend me in this space. It is a joy to get to share my thoughts and life and with so many amazing women. I look forward to finding my way and continuing to show real moments and my favorite things. Your words mean so much to me and I’m forever thankful for you! After many prayers, I feel that the Lord is teaching me patience and showing me the way, a little at a time.
    Thank you so much!!
    -Morgan

  15. Bonita

    May 16th, 2018 at 8:27 am

    This is why I’m a subscriber! Loved this.

  16. Morgan Reed

    May 18th, 2018 at 10:23 am

    Thank you so much, Bonita!! You are the best 😘

  17. Nyeema Johnson

    May 16th, 2018 at 7:22 pm

    Hello Morgan. This is such a deep introspective post so thanks for your transparency. Congratulations on taking time to pause and reflect on how the success of your blog to negatively influence your self worth and taking steps towards your original mission of creating simple and timeless content. Keep creating unique content that emotinallly resonates with you and view your platform as a creative expression of your gifts, personality, and lifestyle so that you stay motivated and inspired. Continue to celebrate and embrace that you are blessed to not have to strive for your blog to be financially lucrative. Also, how do you define success in terms of blogging? Success can be defined in many ways and it seems like you have already started to re-define sucesss in terms of whether you are fulfilled by and proud of your content, which is most important!

  18. Morgan Reed

    May 18th, 2018 at 10:26 am

    Thank you so much, Nyeema! This comment is so thoughtful and deep. I love it! I think that is such a good question… how do I define success for my blog? To be honest, I’m not really sure. I think I used to find success and making it a full-time job, that would support me. However, I’m realizing that is not truly the success for me. Although I am still shaping and trying to understand what success would like for me, I think it begins by sharing content that is beautiful and valuable and makes my readers just as joyful as it does me. I know I have a long way to go, but I truly feel like that is the best place to start, at this point.

    Thank you so much for taking the time to comment and support this journey and for helping me to think deeper about this topic. I am so thankful for you! I hope you have a wonderful weekend! 💕
    -Morgan

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