July 11, 2019


The illusion off happiness. That’s exactly it. Social media is a compilation of images from those you know, and those you don’t, displaying a precisely edited version of their perfect life, that in most cases is not nearly that perfect. Thankfully, I believe that Instagram stories have created a space where people have began to openly share the imperfect moments in their life. 

One thing that I have struggled with for years, as I have become surrounded by these curated lifestyles and platforms that are essentially necessary for my business to survive, is how can I find clarity and joy amongst the filters and perfection?

As an influencer and content creator, my job is to create beautiful #goalworthy images and in some cases, I really love doing that. But, when the pressure of perfection creeps in, I find myself doubting my abilities and my authenticity. How can we do our jobs and still remain mentally sane at the end of the day? I think this headingclarified that for me. Chase joy- not the illusion of happiness. 

They always say the first step is realizing that you have a problem and that has been hard for me. Maybe not so much realizing that I have a problem, I think we are all aware of the dangers of comparison. Instead, I struggle with the ability to recognize when that problem is beginning to affect me mentally and emotionally,and is driving my daily decisionmaking process.

Chase joy- not the illusion of happiness. 

Camille Styles
5 Ways I Chase Joy- not the illusion of happiness

Lately, I have done my best to start learning to recognize this slippery slope and give myself some space to gain clarity and peace before falling victim. When I read that heading, I felt like it truly put the words to a feeling that I have had for so long, but could never quite express well. So, what do I when I feel that anxious urge coming on? Here are a few things…


This doesn’t always work because in the middle of a stressful week, sometimes you just need takeout. But, if you aren’t too exhausted, just a little anxious, I find the best remedy for me is: turning on my favorite Pandora cooking station (French Cooking Music), pouring myself a glass of wine, putting away my phone and mixing up some of my favorite ingredients to make a delicious meal for Jay and I.


Most of the time it isn’t very far, but I’d say at least twice, usually three times a day, we take walks to our mailbox and back. We have a nice long driveway so this trip only takes a few minutes and is just enough to get a little fresh air and stretch out a bit.


As with the mailbox journey, I make several trips to our garden each day just to check in on our plants and myself. It gives me clarity and brings me joy. Even if nothing has changed all too much. Slow growth is good. It helps me clear some space in my head for something that is intentional and full of life.

Playing a Game

The most important thing I can do is to put my laptop and cell phone away. Jay and I have found one of the best escapes is to play a board game or a card game. Some of our favorites are Battleship and Crazy 8’s!

Get Creative and Try Something New

A few weeks ago, I tried my hand at my first ever IGTV video and it brought on an entirely new aspect to my business. Not to mention, it was pretty fun and brought me so much joy to try something new. The week before that, I took a few minutes and cut some of our lavender and dried it out. I put it in little sachets and it smells incredible.

There you have it. These are a few ways I chase joy in my life when I am beginning to feel bogged down mentally and emotionally. I would love to know if this is something that you suffer from as well and what you do to keep yourself joyful and light.

Photography by Tiffany Sigmon

5 Ways I Chase Joy- not the illusion of happiness


  1. Dine McCollin

    July 11th, 2019 at 10:36 am

    I love these ideas Morgan. I love reading about you visiting your garden. I love to plant flowers, and taking the time to water them every evening (because of the Alabama heat) brings me great joy. It is also a way to decompress at the end of the day. I am not a professional blogger, but I follow many on Instagram and YouTube. I truly understand your point. As always, it was great to read.

  2. Lauren Darby

    October 11th, 2019 at 10:04 am

    I appreciate what you have shared Morgan! I recently took a social media cleanse, giving myself a break from Instagram because I found I was chasing an unrealistic version of perfection. The constant comparison to others and the vision they put out online was weighing me down. I am so blessed and we sometimes forget that, and this break has really helped me see it again. I love following everyone for inspiration but sometimes it’s good to take a little break to reflect and get back to you roots. Hoping to hear more about your garden soon.

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