Sometimes I think we are all born powerful, confident women, yet overtime the world shapes us to be something completely different. For some of us, we grow more powerful, strong willed and fearless. Maybe some of us allow others to push us to the back of the classroom and we become less and less willing to stand up for ourselves. I am personally not one or the other. Rather, I find myself caught in the awkward in-between. Unable to feel completely confident, but unwilling to give up.
Lately, I have been more and more concerned about my willingness to stand up for myself and feel confident. I have found myself using the word “just” way too much and feeling insecure about myself. Often times I wonder if it’s because I write about my life, and struggles, online. I share videos of my life and I love every second of it, but sometimes it makes me a little uncomfortable around people I know. Wonder whether or not they watch, read and what they think? Are they impressed, embarrassed for me or excited that I am brave enough to embark on this journey.
It’s easy to let others opinions, feelings and thoughts control our life. But, I am making it my goal for the near future to change the way I view myself and others. I want to be more confident and proud of myself. I’m not saying in anyway do I want to boast, or be rude, that’s not the point. Instead, I want to be excited about what I’m doing in my business, and life, and not be afraid to put my goals out in the open.
Dress The Part
This is something that I struggle with daily, that could be causing me to lack confidence in my business and everyday life. Dressing the Part. That means get up, put on your make up, do your hair and dress professionally. As I am writing this, I am wearing cut off denim shorts, a slouchy t-shirt and a Lulu Lemon Jacket. Comfort has completely taken over, which isn’t bad, but it’s not necessarily good either. This outfit does nothing for my confidence and that’s not exactly what I want while I’m working. I want to feel confident, inspired and proud of my work.
Let’s switch to something you should wear to make you feel confident- this jumpsuit. I seriously don’t think I have ever felt as confident in clothing in my entire life. Not only is the jumpsuit stylish, but it is cut so flattering and is still professional. Say hello to the perfect #GirlBoss outfit. The Manolo’s are just for fun, but I think they make the perfect sassy touch to this sophisticated look. When I saw these pictures my mine was blown. Tiffany and I shot this look the same day that I wrote my first email on how I was changing my blog and mindset, to be more business like. I was feeling empowered and like nothing could keep me down. I think this look is definitely empowering and will leave you feeling confident and in charge. Club Monaco, Thank you!
Even if you work from home, don’t slouch around in something that doesn’t make you feel confident. Even if you are just walking a few steps yto your laptop, take the time to get dressed like you are already running a 6+ figure business! You got this girl!
You Are You
There is only one you in this world, so why would you let the world miss out on you, while you’re trying to be someone else? I truly feel that while we might be our most vulnerable when we are our true self, we are also our most confident because we are being us. I have spent so much time hiding, or really restraining, my true self. However, I have found that when I allow my true personality to show, people actually love me for me. Of course there are always going to be people who aren’t our tribe and don’t want us to be successful, so they will hate. But those who truly matter will make you feel your best, when you are truly being yourself. I love this quote from Dolly Parton so much that I might just have to write it down and hang it on my wall, or at least maybe put it on my desk “Find out who you are and do it on purpose.”
Eliminate The Word “Just”
Do you ever catch yourself saying, “I’m just a blogger.”, “I’m just a photographer.” you name it. We alway have a tendency to downplay ourselves, which in a way can be a good thing. We want to be humble, kind and respectful others. We don’t want to brag or be hurtful, but that doesn’t mean we should discredit ourselves. I am going to try my best to eliminate the word “just” from my vocabulary as much as possible. Obviously, I will use it when it’s appropriate. But when it comes to describing myself or what I am doing, I need to refrain from using the word just. I feel so much better when I stop myself from saying it and it isn’t boosts my confidence because I am no longer downing myself.
Whatever you are doing, whether it’s blogging, starting a business, applying for a job or making your way through school, I have found the more research I do the better. Being prepared and planned, makes everything run so much smoother, which in turn leads to more confidence because you actually know what is going on! I can say this with confidence, because I am usually not prepared, therefore I am not feeling my most confident self on any given day. I feel much better about blogging when my posts are prepared in advance and I have time to proof them and make them the best possible post they can be.
Get Into a Routine
Morning Routine, Evening Routine, Daily Ritual, whatever you want to call it, get into one! I struggle the most with a morning routine, even though I have a slight routine I have been working on cleaning up my morning routine a bit, before sharing it with you! My evening routine is based around my skincare routine, which just kind of sends me into shutting down for the night. My husband basically lives off of routines, seriously he is so predicable, I however struggle. Setting a routine helps you prepare for the day ahead and sends you out the door, or into to bed, in the best way possible. I love this post from The Everygirl that shares how you can realistically overhaul your morning routine.
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