Sweater weather is some of my favorite kinds of weather! I don’t know about you, but things are heating up (or should I say cooling down?) for fall around here. The past few days have been cloudy, and rainy, in Virginia, so naturally I’m throwing on all of my favorite fall sweaters! Today, I am wearing this sweater in the most perfect blush shade. Its officially my new favorite sweater for the up coming season.
It is still warm here, although today’s a little chilly, so I can’t dive full force into heavy sweaters-I need an assortment of sweater options! I love sweaters because they are comfortable, but a little more pulled together than a t-shirt. Plus, they come in a variety of styles! Today, Wanted to share a round up of a few of my favorite sweaters that you can pick up this fall!
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Slowly, but surely, things are shaping up at our house! This post is long overdue, it has been quite a while since my last home post. I have been planning on sharing these updates with you for a couple of weeks! I have decided to focus on interior surfaces for this post, because that is mostly what we have been working on lately.
I’m so excited, but truthfully Jay, and I, are a little more exhausted these days. After making so many decisions, having hold ups, mess ups and just trying to make this house beautiful and well thought out, we are just running out of juice. I’m sure that is to be expected, we just need to push through this last small, but significant stretch that we have left. The past two months we have spent our time working on the interior surfaces of our home. Trim, floors, walls, tile and more. I feel like each phase brings a new element of “home” to this house. I’m so anxious to see the finished product, it feels like we are so close, but yet still so far away. The interior surfaces of the home have been some of the most fun, but also stressful of all. I’m excited to share with you the updates we have and how we made our decisions!
Herringbone Entry Floor
This is not the best picture, but all I can say is “WOW!” We decided to have the floor in our entry way be laid in a herringbone pattern and I couldn’t be more thankful that we did. Originally, I thought we might do a black and white marble, or another marble or tile. However, after a little thought and a lot of Pinteresting I fell in love with herringbone and knew I wanted to incorporate it into our house. At first, I wasn’t sure where I wanted to use the herringbone. We decided that although the black and white marble is stunning, (my mom’s foyer is done like that), it was just a little to fancy for the feel we are going for. Thats when I knew that the herringbone would be a perfect match! As with most things that aren’t standard, I always worry myself that I won’t like it, or that it was a bad idea. There herringbone was neither. It is unique, and striking, but not over the top. I’m thankful we decided to go for it!
If I had to describe the main themes of the interior surfaces of our house, I would say that they are Carrara marble, satin/antique brass and herringbone (I talked more about that here). I saw a picture online of Emily Jackson’s master bath and fell instantly in love with the way she tiled all the way up the walls, surrounding her tub. This was another way I pushed my comfort zone. Tiling all of these walls seemed like a little much, and it definitely is, but it isn’t too much-it is just right! We still have to tile the master shower and kitchen backsplash (which may come later), but all of our floors and the upstairs showers complete!
I just love, love, love the first picture above! Trim is another trade that really brought this house to life, especially in our keeping room (shown above). I think that large crown, and base, really makes a difference. Skipping on crown, leaves out an important and very detailed part of a home.I hope one day to add some additional wainscoting, because let’s be real-I just can’t get enough! But for right now, we are just focusing on the essentials. Once our countertops are finished, they will be able to complete the mantle and around the fireplaces. We also need to finish our stairs and banisters. Hopefully, those things will be completed within the next two weeks.
Our cabinets are finished and have been installed. There are still a few details being completed (hardware, pull out drawers in the the pantry, and more) but for the most part, everything is getting close! I can’t wait to show you the hardware we selected. I have definitely over analyzed those little details, because I feel like they really make or break your space, so I want them to be perfect. More to come on those later…
Interior Doors & Paint
Our interior doors have been painted and hung. The 5 panel door, leading into our closet, is my favorite! We decided to switch things up a little and select different panels for different doors throughout the house. The painters have been painting the doors, trim and walls, and still have a little work left to do. I also need to have the wallpaper for the powder room hung. I can’t wait for you to see that, i’m obsessed with it.
The columns have been set on the front and back porch, but still need to be painted. Columns are another detail that is really important. If columns are too small, they can just make the house look cheap, or that something is missing. I love our columns. We had a difficult time deciding if we wanted to do square, or round, columns and decided to go with round. Traditionally, I think square columns are a little more fitting for our style of home. It just seemed like the round column made everything look that more much unique! Which do you like better, square or round columns?
Our shutters are in and will hopefully be hung next week! They are gorgeous!
The garage doors have been installed and stained since I took this photo. You might recognize it from my Instagram account! I forgot to snap a picture of them the other day when I was shooting the rest of the pictures. As with everything else, I’m also completely smitten with these doors. They were definitely an investment, because they weren’t exactly friendly to our budget, but I think they were perfectly worth every penny!
We still have a few things to do and a lot more decisions to make. Between the wedding, the rest of the house, and buying furniture, we will still have plenty of decisions to make! I decided to make this post a little different than the rest, so I hope you liked it. Let me know what you think! I will also leave a list of things that we still need to do below, like in another posts. Be sure to check out all of my home building posts, here, so that you can get up to speed if this is your first time seeing our home!
Fixtures (Lighting and Plumbing)
Dress: J.Crew (similar) | Shoes: Stuart Weitzman | Bag: Saint Laurent | Scarf: Hermès (similar)
Sunnies: Céline | Bracelets: Linked below | Earrings: David Yurman | Lips: Liner, Lipstick
There is absolutely no doubt that this house, and the wedding, has made me lose my mind lately! I feel like we have so much to catch up on and I will definitely be doing a house update very soon (probably Monday so keep an eye out!) because so much has changed. It seems like life is moving a thousand mile per hour right now and I honestly just wish everything would slow the heck down. I really want to enjoy this time in my life, but I feel like a crazy person 23.5 out of the 24 hours in the day.
I am, however, thankful that it isn’t 100 degrees in Virginia anymore. It’s definitely a good 98 degrees these days( lol… Ok, maybe its in the 80s) Either way, I am taking any relief ,from the heat, I can get! Last week ,I chatted about my favorite fall fashion colors and today I wanted to share one of my first transitional fall looks with you! This denim dress from J. Crew is one of my favorite pieces in my wardrobe. In my opinion, everyone should down a good, classic , denim dress. It’s great for the transitional months like spring, and fall, and is the perfect outfit to style your favorite accessories with! For this look, I paired it with my favorite Hermès scarf. I received this as a graduation gift a few months ago and I just started wearing it more frequently. I adore it and love how it is so versatile, and of course classic!
A denim dress pairs great with booties, a statement belt (or scarf!), or your favorite handbag. You can dress it up with your favorite pumps or to the complete opposite with some chic sneakers! I love how classic it is and just really perfect to throw on and run some errands in. Obviously, this look is a bit more polished, but you get the idea! A denim dress is definitely a staple in my closet, is it in yours?
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Confidence is not exactly a word found in my vocabulary frequently. In fact, I used to rarely ever feel confident, in charge, or proud of my myself. I have a tendency to over apologize for things, which usually aggravates Jay. So, frequently we have that awkward discussion where I say “…I’m sorry!” And then he says “Stop saying ‘I’m sorry!'” Then I’m like, “Ok well, if I were saying I’m sorry, I would say it right now.” And then I get “the look.”
After repeating the previous scenario multiple times a month, I took it upon myself to take some serious action in the self development area of my life. Just because I’m not a size 2, doesn’t mean I’m not beautiful. The same goes for you too! Beauty is not defined by a specific clothing size, a given lifestyle, personality or skin or hair color. Beauty comes from within. I know that sounds a little cliché, and over used, but when you really think about it-it is so true. So why are we all beating ourselves up because we aren’t a goal weight, or maybe we have had a failure in our life, or we don’t have long eyelashes or the perfect plump lips?! We are each beautiful in our very own, and unique way. We need to love, and envy, ourselves, because we are worth it! I have spent so many years of my life, thinking that I wan’t pretty enough, smart enough, thin enough, or cool enough. Those thoughts have to leave my mind, and yours to if you have them. They are just lies that satan tells us in order to gain control of our happiness, and none of them are true. So why do we let ourselves believe them? Why do we fall victim to our own criticism? And What can we do to change the way we are thinking and make our lives more positive and happy?
I am no expert. In fact, I am currently on my own journey to loving myself just the way I am, and wanting more out of my everyday life. No one is perfect. I certainly am not. But that doesn’t mean that I am unworthy. And that doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t love myself, believe in myself and/or be proud of myself. I should and you should too. So today I am going to share 5 Ways to Love and Respect Yourself More Each Day. In my case, I didn’t feel better overnight, a couple of days, or even a few weeks. It takes time, effort and willingness to forgive yourself, and I still struggle with that daily. We are all going to fall short of glory, but that is why we are given grace. We are worthy of loving ourselves and being happy with who we are. My mom has constantly told me throughout my life that I have to be happy with where I am, before anything will ever change. I struggled with that, because the whole purpose of wanting change was because I was unhappy with what I had. However, I found that when I began to work on myself, not the external factors I was blaming my unhappiness on, I slowly began to find joy in the little things in life and little, by little, the self worth that I had lost, began to show up again. Happiness is like beauty, you have to find it from within, and it takes work.
Focus On Your Personal and Spiritual Development
For me, I began with spiritual development because I was so far from it. I have always prayed at night and mostly before a big exam, or when I felt like I needed help the most. But, I have found that I don’t have to be in bed, or in my closet, or alone in a white room to say a thankful prayer. I began to pray all throughout the day, whenever it came to my mind. For a while, I was journaling and completed this bible study. I love to listen to Joel Osteen and Joyce Meyer when I am in the car. Jay and I began attending church and slowly I found a group of people, that were filled with such amazing joy, happiness and love for one another, and themselves. That kind of life is contagious and a good kind of contagious. That kind of life is found in Jesus. He is waiting with open arms to give us grace and help us to love yourself again, because he loves us and that is more than enough. Jesus is where I began my journey. I also picked up this book, which I have slowly been working my way through. It is great motivation for both spiritual development and personal development. There are many personal development books out there, that I am searching through to find my next read. I would love any recommendations you have! This is next on my reading list!
Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
This one was probably one of the most difficult for me. Throughout high school, and college, I compared myself to others. Whether it was my acne that made me self-conscious, the fact that I got a C on my exam while others got A’s, or that I just never felt like I fit in. My mind tricked me into thinking I wasn’t good enough and that made me turn my back on so many friends, and acquaintances. I would make up some crazy story of why I wasn’t good enough and why they didn’t like me, when in reality, none of it was probably even true! I think its completely normal to sometimes feel a little different, but that is just a part of being human and doesn’t make it ok to for us to compare ourselves to others. “Comparison is the thief of Joy.” We are all different, but valuable. We have strengths, and weaknesses, that make us different. Please don’t compare yourself to others. It’s so easy to get wrap up in social media and looking perfect. Trust me, I always fee like an imposter when it comes to blogging! I’m not tall, thin or really all too fashionable. And let’s not even get started about how awkward I feel in front of a camera. I don’t know what happened to the little diva that loved being on camera, but I can’t find her anymore! Don’t compare yourself to others, instead be thankful for everything that you are. Because you have traits that the person you are envying, does not have. Things always look fine, and perfect, from the outside. Bu t you never know what is going on inside someones personal life. Which is just another reason to love yourself and encourage others. You could be the turning point in someones life that shows them they are worthy!
Start Small:Health, Fitness, Joy
I’m one of those types of people that will find a food I like and eat it over, and over. Or a favorite store I like to shop in and I will just shop there, and only there. I tend to sometimes take things to extremes. No exactly when it comes to healthy eating, however I have no problem sitting down with a container of Ben & Jerry’s ice-cream and eating the entire thing! Same goes for exercise. I will go hard for three days an then quit, because I went way too overboard the first couple of days and now I’m just exhausted. Slow and steady wins the race. It’s ok not to be perfect on your first try. It’s ok to go to the gym and not run for 45 minutes on the treadmill. Starts small, don’t over do it and I promise you will see better results. Take your time when it goes to personal growth. Maybe you just read an inspiring book 3 times a week, or every few days. A little bit of consistent progress is much better than a ton of unsustainable progress. Take a half a step a day, so you don’t have to take two steps forward and ten steps back! I am thinking about purchasing a happiness journal, so that I can just jot down a few thoughts every now and then. The only way for me to be consistent is to take things very slow and work at them overtime. Don’t beat yourself up, its ok! If you’re like me, these yoga pants will change your exercising game!
I thought number two was difficult, but unplugging can be even more trifling than other things. Unplugging from technology, and social media, can be one of the most challenging, but rewarding things you can do for yourself. In today’s society, it’s nearly impossible to not keep up with the latest Facebook posts, or not check your work email after 5pm. On most days, the first thing I do in the morning is check my Instagram account, snapchat, email and everything else, all before I get out of bed, or open both of my eyes! [Am I the only one who squints one eye open in the morning to check Instagram?!] That is a terrible habit that I need to break, but it isn’t easy. Instead of reaching for my phone first thing in the morning, I have been trying to push myself out of bed, and into the bathroom to brush my teeth, before reaching for my cellphone. At night, when I can, I try to put away my phone, and laptop, about 30 minutes before I plan on going to sleep. There is no doubt that I sleep so much better, if I read a book for a while before I go to sleep. I fall asleep easier, earlier and sleep much more peacefully if I unplug from technology all together a little before bed time. Limiting yourself to a set amount of social media and technology time everyday can make a huge impact on personal development, in my opinion. If I stay off of Facebook and Instagram, I can take the time to read a book that can provide me with valuable ways to improve my daily life. I can also take the time to go to my garden, take a walk with Jay and Worm, head to the gym, or just have a few minutes to myself to reflect and be thankful. Those moments are much more valuable than having my brain filled with information overload and images that may make me feel unworthy. So, even though it may be difficult, take a break from the laptop, cell phone or whatever it is. You might find yourself reaching for it less and feeling much more relieved than you could ever believe!
Gain Perspective & Be Patient
Everything takes time, including personal development. One of my biggest problems is rushing myself into everything. I always rush, rush rush, and then realize if I would have just slowed everything down, I would have gotten a better result. It’s in my nature to rush myself and thats not good. Good things take time and being patient is essential to loving ourselves. We have to patient with ourselves and others. We have to be forgiving because we aren’t perfect. And most importantly, when taking our time (and being patient) we are able to gain perspective. If we rush through things quickly, and don’t see results immediately, we might feel the need to quit. There is no benefit in quitting and doing so will only stand in the way of our progress towards loving ourselves, and being content with how we are. Gaining perspective is one of the hardest, but best things I have done for myself. Whenever I feel overwhelmed,or unhappy with myself or my circumstances, gaining perspective is one of the only things that will help me stay grounded. Am I without food? No. Am I without a home? No. Can I pay bills, eat, live, have my health, be loved by family, be loved by God? Yes. So I am perfectly fine. I may not be as tall and thin as I would like, I may not run as fast as I would like, feel as secure as I would like or have clear (acne free sin) like I would like to have, but I am perfectly me just the way I am. Being patient with myself, gaining perspective and taking things one day at a time, at a slow pace is the only way for me to feel better and be the better, more confident person I want to be.
Feeling good about myself is something that doesn’t come easy, but is necessary to work at. We are all so beautiful in our own ways and worthy to be loved by others, but most importunely, to be loved by ourselves. I hope that this post has inspired you to take a little extra time to work on how you treat yourself. Between all of the stress we are enduring these days (wedding, house, work and more life craziness) I need to continue to push, press, and work really hard at loving and caring for myself. I need to read some books, pray, practice yoga, and fuel my body with good foods. I am going to reflect on this post that I wrote a few months ago and I think that if you liked these tips you will find that post really helpful also! I hope that your found these 5 Ways to Love and Respect Yourself More helpful and just remember that you are beautiful!
What are your favorite ways to love and respect yourself? I would love for you to share them in a comment!
As much as I don’t want to face it, fall is moving upon us quickly. Although I’m holding onto every last breath of summer, I wanted to share with you some fall fashion colors suggestions. Spring and Summer are high on my list, as far as my favorite part of the year. However, fall has to probably be my favorite. I won’t get all pumpkin spice crazy on you, however that is one of my favorite things about fall, especially this recipe! But, fall fashion is my absolute favorite, so today I wanted to share with you some staple fall, fashion colors in my wardrobe.
I love dressing for fall because the temperatures are warm during the day (or in VA hot during the day!) and cool at night. Towards the end of fall, the days are cool enough to wear a chic jacket, but not so cold that you freeze your tail off when you walk outside. I definitely don’t like the cold weather, but I do love cooler temperatures that allow me to layer my favor scarves, hats, jackets and vests! I thought that it would be fun to share a post designated solely to fall,fashion colors. I always love sharing inspiration boards, so I know you will see some of these pieces again very soon. However, I wanted to share some of my favorite colors to create outfits from in the fall. I learned so much when gathering some great pieces from this color palette, which I will share in detail in each section. Let’s not forget the black, white and nude are staples in my wardrobe no matter the season, so don’t forget those as well!
My latest, and greatest, obsession is definitely blush. The perfect rose pink, with a hint of neutral, compliments many seasons including the transition from summer, into fall. I have added so many pieces of blush to my wardrobe, over the past few months, and have plans of continuing that obsession for quite a while longer! In a recent post, I shared my collab with Amanda from Poised Avenue (you can see that here) and I share the items we swapped. However, I loved the hat I gifted her so much, I had to go and pick it up for myself! I have already worn it and I am just smitten with how chic it is! It is definitely going to be a over worn item this fall and will help lead me from summer, into fall. Blush accessories are definitely a must, but this jacket just needs to be in my closet!
Grey is another color that I love to wear all year around, but especially during the fall months. Grey sweaters and t-shirts are essential to every girls fall wardrobe and are great investments. Having the perfect grey cashmere sweater, scarf or wrap in your closet is a great way to stay prepared for the season. They pair great with distressed white jeans in early fall and switch to black jeans for late fall/early winter. I am dying for the perfect pair of grey suede booties, and these Manolo’s! Sharkskin is one of Pantone’s Fall Fashion colors of this year and I have to say, it’s the perfect shade of grey.
Olive Green is one of my favorite colors for brunettes and those with darker skin tones. I think it is such an understated, but really a sultry color that provides sophistication, and style. An olive green tank and jacket are currently found in my closet, but I would really love a dress in this shade! I also pairs perfectly on your nails and is a neutral color without going all the way nude (it’s like the perfect mix!) I am also super obsessed with with this top, how fab?! Army/Olive green is always one of the first colors that comes to mind when I think fall. Its also a great transition color as it goes great with white and black jeans, or you can go for the olive pants (I say, go for it!)
The wine is fine! A sexy color that brings an eye catching pop to fall. I probably love fall so much, because of all of the neutral colors, but the perfect burgundy wine shade brings a whole new level of ho,t to cooler fall temperatures (and I’m not talking about the weather!) This color is striking and usually carries a heavy price point. But, a beautiful wine tote or sweater are worth the splurge. And who can say no to these amazing Rockstuds?! Although they won’t be great for every season of the year, they will definitely be worth it come fall!
I hope that you found this post helpful! I would love to know what your favorite fall fashion colors are!